Reminiscence from Sister Marian Cowan, Mev’s spiritual director
It was with deep pain that I recall the two calls in which Mev informed me of her brain tumor and subsequently asked me to be present with her in California for the surgery. I was humbled once again to be one of the few persons Mev really wanted to bring out to be with her. I am so grateful to have been included. We celebrated Mass, we prayed, we waited, we walked and we waited some more. Not until Mev had come through the surgery and we saw her sitting up and talking were we able to leave her and return to our own cities again.
During the time that Mev and Mark continued to live in Berkeley, we chatted a little more often, and I was always filled with sadness afterward. Then they moved to Saint Louis. This gave me greater opportunity to see Mev and visit with her. I traveled a lot during that time, and I was also assisting another friend as she moved through cancer, so I was not able to see Mev as often as I desired. Mev’s disease continued to take its toll on her body, so that each time I saw her, I was shocked at the progress of physical debilitation. Yet her spirit was radiant, as always. This does not mean she did not feel all the emotions proper to her condition. She did. And Mark and others helped her to express them. For most of November and December, I was at last able to take a regular time to sit with Mev and assist in her care. This was a privilege for me.
My other friend became very ill while she was in Arkansas, and she died on November 10. I gave myself a week to deal with this reality before again trying to be with Mev. I became so frustrated when each time I went to the house I was met with the note [sign on the front door] asking folks to come back later. I felt a great urgency to see Mev and to spend some quality time with her. Mark responded to the notes I left, telling me to come on in the next time, which I did. This was the day that is impressed in my memory for all time. Read the rest of this entry »